It is said that there is an art to conversation. If you get on the Google and search the topic, there are numerous blogs and books that give tips on how to effectively break the ice, build relationships and establish critical social bonds that are necessary for personal and business survival.
The conversational pointer that I value the most is that to truly gain understanding one must do more listening than talking. When we sit still and listen we learn more and understand more. We gain wisdom and knowledge, and it’s in these quiet moments that we discover more about ourselves and the world around us.
Cigars tell great stories. Each one is unique in it’s own right and can teach us not only about their origins, but if we listen closely, we’re able to find a little piece of ourselves in each “word” they speak. In their flavors they explain satisfaction. In their strength they explain contrast. In their construction they explain balance and order. Within every box or label we absorb lessons of history and heritage. Cigars will teach us when we take the time to listen and be attentive.
While cigars are a means to bring people together socially, they also serve as a way to meditate and sort out the thoughts, feelings and fears that are in our heads. While sitting alone in solace, cigars give us the opportunity to slow down and pay attention. As each bellow of smoke leaves our noses and our mouths, we can reflect and sort out the issues in our lives and regain focus.
When cigars talk to me, they tell me that people are tired of conflict and confusion. When cigars talk to me, they tell me that it’s ok to write and to educate. When cigars talk to me, they give me clarity and peace. They speak of sacrifice and hard work. They speak of passion and freedom. Cigars tell stories of opportunity and give some people a means to hope; because in that hour and a half that it takes to enjoy one the smoke drowns out our worries and we can relax and release.
It’s rare to engage in conversation that is unbiased, genuine and authentic. Yet when a cigar is enjoyed without distraction there is an opportunity to be pure and unswayed. They meet the aficionado where they are in that very moment and have a way of saying, “It’s ok” when comfort is needed after a loss…it’s supportive and encouraging when there is fear and doubt…the cigar offers a ”Good job” when it’s time to celebrate. They aid in discerning whether that certain someone is right for you or not or if you should or shouldn’t go forward with that deal. Cigars help when writing blog posts and keep the creative juices flowing (that one is for me).
When a cigar talks, listen, because they won’t only tell you what you want to hear but what you need to hear. All they need is a little time and care from you and a receptive ear, body and spirit. Enjoying a cigar in a crowd has its benefits, but every once in a while, we need to spend some alone time with our cigars and let them speak to us, so that we can be better when we decide to speak to others.